You're Married... Now What?

The Roles of the Mr. and the Mrs... I'm talking truly physical roles/chores of the house here. Who does what??? Most households do not operate like they used to in the "cookie cutter" 1950's. Every family, every couple, does things their own way, the perfect way that works for them. 

I know before Edward and I got married we did not sit down and create a plan, a "chore schedule" per say.  I just figured things would work themselves out. I would automatically know what I should be responsible for and what he would be. Edward and I also did not live together before we were married. So not only was being married a big change for us after dating for six years but so was living together. 

Now I would be lying to you if I said I never envisioned myself like Mrs. Cleaver; wearing my pearls and heels while vacuuming, with dinner already on the table when Edward walks in to say "Honey, I'm home!" Yeah I thought it could possibly go something like that.... then reality hits! So let's talk about how it runs (or doesn't run) in our household...

Please keep in mind that the "roles" below are based on the summer months because we both have similar working schedules when he is not in school... except my commute to work is an hour one-way and his is about 4 minutes. During "school months" it is all out the window! Edward knows that I support him with his dedication to law school in every which way. His schooling is a higher priority than anything around the house. So the days when he remembers to put the toothpaste away is HUGE!! It's the little things, right? ;)

1. Making the bed: Toss Up

Edward assumes I should make the bed, and I probably would except that he doesn't get out of the bed until I'm walking out the door for work.... So we don't see eye to eye on that.

2. Making dinner: MRS. 

This is simple... I love to cook and I'm pretty good at it. He doesn't want to be in the kitchen and I'm okay with that. Edward's idea of cooking dinner is picking up Jimmy John's. 

**Disclaimer: I hate making salad... don't know why but I always have. This is the only thing I asked him to do and he does a fine job.

3. Doing the dishes: MR. (for the most part...)

So much goes back to the "family of origin", right? YES! In my house, my mom cooked and did the dishes. His mom cooked but his dad did the dishes. Of course I like the way his parents did it and he likes my parents way. I win, most nights :)

3. Cleaning the bathroom: MR.

We both grew up cleaning our own bathrooms. But I just don't like it... I'd rather clean anything else but the bathroom. And for some reason he doesn't mind. So that was an easy one. 

4. Yard Work: MR. (for now...)

We both enjoy mowing and weed wackin' the yard but Edward sees this as "mans work". So for this past summer I let him do it. But come next week when school starts up you will probably see the little short blonde girl pushing that monster machine lawnmower and that is fine by me. 

5. Garden: BOTH

Notice I don't consider this "yard work". That is a chore. Gardening is a hobby. We both started gardening together and both enjoy it. 

6. Dusting, Vacuuming, Sweeping: MRS. 

Edward has done this a time or two around the house but he just doesn't do it the way that I do it... I can be OCD with some things....

7. Laundry {Washing of the Clothes}: MRS. 

Edward doesn't read the tags. Enough said.

8. Laundry {Folding/ Hanging of the Clothes}: MRS. / BOTH

He doesn't want to fold my clothes and I always end up putting his in the wrong drawers (so he says..). So I fold and put mine away. And I fold and put his on top of the dresser. (And they usually just sit there.... for awhile until he knows I've had enough). 

**Disclaimer: Anyone who has seen my room would question if I ever put clothes away. It's only the dirty clothes on the ground... It's just really hard to make it all the way to the hamper!! I'm working on that... :/

So I think I've covered the basics. Somehow all the above does just work for us... most of the time. I love hearing how other couples manage everything. I have some friends who do it all completely opposite of us! And I know that once I become a SAHM in a few years, roles will definitely change. And I'm excited to embrace that change. (Like really really excited!) But for now, this is keeping us living happily ever after :) 

I'd love to hear how things work around your house!!! Please do share :)

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